Using the relationship to cultivate
"Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find
all of the barriers you have built against it." - Rumi
ADDRESSED IN THERAPY
Intimacy & Sex
Intimacy & Partnership
Dr. David Schnarch, an expert in the field of couples therapy, proposes that intimate partnerships are ultimately: "People-growing machines." If you hang out in one long enough - a romantic relationship will attempt to grow you.
Unfortunately, most of us are taught that life and relationships are about right and wrong rather than: learning and growing. Which can make these growth-moments feel more like personal attacks than opportunities for personal transformation.
When a couples' intention for intimacy and connection is met with curiosity and space, the relational tensions and dysfunctional patterns can be used to cultivate a partnership that grows and thrives with the ebbs and flows of life.
Each partner comes with their unique hurts and strengths, rigidities and flexibilities; all of which can be seen and utilized for the deepest levels of healing.
This work is not easy, but I have seen it become something couples look forward to doing together. It is my hope that you will learn about yourselves, each other, and what nurtures a healthy relationship so you can find more meaning, connection, and joy during all seasons of your relationship.